I am a failure...
We all reflect on our accomplishments and failures. They define who we are today. I look back over the years and I am thankful for where I am in my life. I am fortunate enough to have a beautiful wife and child to inspire me on a daily basis. My wife is not only my life partner, but she is my business manager. We may not agree on everything; however, I know I can trust her implicitly.
Life for me has not always been sunshine and rainbows. There was a time that I thought I would never be able to be happy or successful.
Here is a short story:
In 2007, around this time of year, I found myself checking out of George Washington psyche ward. My marriage was in shambles, divorce was eminent, and I was unsure if I had a job waiting for me. I had been battling an Adderall addiction that landed me two weeks in the crazy house. I was severely depressed and had thoughts of suicide. I literally wanted to step out in front of a metrobus and end this emotional anguish. This inadvertently affected my relationship with my bosses at both jobs. I had been working at a spa and health club for the past couple of years, yet management at this point didn't trust me after everything that had happened. My ex-wife soon filed for divorce papers. I separated from her, moved into a small apartment and attempted a fresh start. Broke and living in an apartment with insufficient heat, life had turned for the worst.
Looking back to where I was almost a decade ago, my perceptions have done a 180. I have my own business and have created a fitness culture respected in my community. I am grateful for being able to positively impact people's lives. Although those trials and tribulations were difficult to deal with, I know I would have not been where I am today if it weren’t for these challenges. In short, I didn’t give up. See, instead of staying in the rut, I decided to use all of this negative energy to fuel my desire to be a stronger, more successful person.
On my road to recovery, I discovered that in order to make improvements you have to set realistic goals, focus on small improvements, and not judge yourself too harshly. I have also realized that it’s necessary to fail sometimes. Failure is a steppingstone and teaches very powerful life lessons. If you’ve recently failed at something in a major way, and you’re going through a difficult time right now, keep these important lessons in mind.
So my advice for you this new year is: don’t make resolutions that are too hard to achieve. Instead, set goals that are realistic rather than intimidating. keep focused on your small victories. Don’t let conflict hamstring you. Learn your lessons and give yourself credit for those everyday improvements.
And remember that I can help you achieve your health and fitness goals. Just call or email and together we’ll work on making 2017 your best year ever.
“It Ain’t How Hard You Hit…It’s How Hard You Can Get Hit and Keep Moving Forward. It's About How Much You Can Take And Keep Moving Forward!”
― Sylvester Stallone, Rocky Balboa
Have a Happy New Year and Stay Strong!
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